Our lives are filled with relationships built on trust and intimacy. Those characteristics are the very bedrock that we stand upon.
But what happens when that trust is broken?
Learning how to deal with family betrayal takes effort. In the process we find ourselves blinded from the good we once knew. The intensity of our negative feelings seems to crush our inner souls.
Dealing with betrayal can be painful and even shocking to experience. But there are ways to heal after betrayal.
Try these five tips to start on your journey to a healthy recovery.
1. Admit Your Pain
All too often we bottle up our feelings and set them to the side. We put on a persona that pretends we are above our culprit. Or, worse yet, we plot an act of emotional revenge in retaliation.
Living in denial nullifies the importance of our hurt feelings. We can’t heal from something that is not recognized as having happened. We must own our feelings and acknowledge that they are like a red flag.
2. Label Your Red Flag Feelings
Emotional red flags tell us that something deep within us was trampled on. In betrayal, the person’s actions damage our trust in them.
Acknowledge your feelings by writing down what you felt from the incident.
What do you feel?:
Once you’ve validated your feelings, it’s time to prepare yourself for personal healing.
3. You are You, Not Them
Take some quiet time to reflect on who you are. In relationships, we can lose sight of where we stop and the other person begins. By reassessing who we are, we know that we have not lost anything that we brought into the relationship.
This perspective helps us find ways to strengthen who we are as an individual. We can empower ourselves to grow into a better version of ourselves from the experience.
4. Let Go and Grow
There is a life truth buried within the story of the monkey with his hand caught in the peanut jar. He was not able to free himself until he let go of the single peanut. It is not until we let go of the betrayal that our hands can open to receive something new into our lives.
Too often we try to hang onto our anger in hopes of it hurting the other person. But our hands must release the other person for us to receive a new positive future. Find out more about this healing process and how it benefits you.
5. Forgive Don’t Forget
Many who find it hard to forgive, struggle because they want the other person to pay for their pain. The difficulty is that in letting go we no longer hold the right to punish them.
But that doesn’t mean we have to forget what they did. We are allowed to remember what they did and remove them from our lives.
Dealing with Betrayal Biblically
Dealing with betrayal impacts our emotional, mental, physical, and spiritual health. When we don’t deal with it, we find ourselves in a tailspin of emotional chaos that seems to grow.
Using the above five steps will get you started in the right direction, but doing the hard work is your choice.
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